People need to be more balanced about why and what they do. A lot of people try so hard to please others because they want attention. You have to ask yourself why you want it and is who you are trying to please even good for you.
“You attract more flies with honey”… metaphorically speaking do you really want to attract flies? I don’t! Flies are gross to me. Ha! (sorry flies) Then don’t use honey. Use something else. Attention = friendship = help = money = popularity/fame = security = safety = jealousy = envy = backstabbers.
Do what makes YOU happy, express who and what you are about. What I worry about is some of my students doing things to please me and not because it’s what they really want. It’s two different things.
- Via a conversation w a student. Stuff like this stings and infuriates… fuels our drive to prove everyone wrong.